Is It Possible to Be Completely Restored After Trust is Broken?


"Just like [this] glass, once it's been destroyed, it will never be the same."

What were your immediate thoughts after reading this quote? Did you think of a person who may have done something to lose someone else's trust, leaving the relationship forever changed and likely destroyed? Did it take your mind to a personal memory where someone hurt you by doing or saying something that left your relationship strained?

When I first saw it, it raised so many thoughts in my head, including revisiting any past ways that my trust has been broken when I had already done the work to heal, forgive, and restore (yes, I had done the work because healing is MY responsibility first.)

Yes, it is true that things will never be the same after trust is broken. Here's a bit of a different perspective and possibly a teachable moment on this, because it doesn't have to be a bad thing.

1. Quotes and images like this tend to have a negative connotation. They cause us to rehash old feelings that we may have already put in the work to heal from. We have to be mindful of the energy we're putting out there so as not to spread negativity, even if our intentions are pure. We also have to be mindful of going along with every quote we see that triggers and agrees with our current but ever-changing emotions, and remember these quotes were created by someone else's triggered emotions that may or may not have been dealt with or checked. Guard your heart, protecting it from all negative energy, and resist the urge to make decisions based off your feelings. Rule of thumb I try to go by: if I can't back the "advice" up with scripture, then it is not the truth and I don't have to go along with it.

"Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the outcome of your life." -Proverbs 4:23

2. When is ANYTHING ever the same as it once was, and when did that become a bad thing? The only thing constant is change. Better yet, the only One Who never changes is God. Our change is expected.

"I am the Lord, and I do not change..." -Malachi 3:6

3. This really is a nice analogy; it makes perfect sense on the surface: break a glass (aka trust), and that glass will forever have scars and never be the same. While this is true, we have to remember this: we are not glass! We are human beings, and our relationships and we ourselves can be completely healed and made better than new if we DO THE WORK! Of course things won't be the same, but maybe the real issue is that we want the comfort of things being the same. When we are broken, it gives God the opportunity to do some REAL WORK in our lives and change us for the better. That's where He does His biggest miracles! That is when the very things that are exposed are used to restore you to something greater than what you were operating out of.

"He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds." -Psalms 147:3

4. With a little time, attention, love, care, and changed behavior, things can be made right again even after trust has been broken. Whoever you once were might not ever be the same, but the you that you become after being broken down will restore you to something much better than before. And again, keep in mind this will require WORK. It won't happen overnight, and it won't happen just because you will it to. Some moments may be more difficult than others, but that is where real faith takes place.

"The Lord says, I will give you back what you lost..." -Joel 2:25

5. Maybe God never intended for you or your relationship to remain the same...

"Therefore, change your hearts and stop being stubborn." -Deuteronomy 10:16

My hope is that we all learn to look at man-made quotes and ideas like this from a more optimistic point of view. The idea that something would remain "broken" forever isn't healthy nor is it true because God is a God of healing, hope, and restoration, and not a single situation or circumstance is exempt.