How I Balance Motherhood, A Career, & An Art Business

Last week, I posted an IG story giving my followers an opportunity to ask me virtually ANYTHING! I got some pretty great questions, and I am SO very appreciative of everyone who allowed me an opportunity to share a little bit of my how and why with them.

One of the questions posed was "How do you find a balance between Mommy life, work life, and artist life?" It requires a little bit more of a response than some of the others, so I briefly responded with this:

"[I] prioritize, and say yes to only the things that are in alignment with my purpose and vision! I guard my time with my LIFE!"

The main thing to know is that I LAUGH at the word "balance" because it's something I'm not sure anyone ever figures out completely, but it's also something I work to attain on a daily basis because, I don't know about you, but I've experienced stress and burnout from doing too much before.

Below are the ways that I am learning to have a healthy work-life balance and still be satisfied with my daily progress.

I allow my spouse to help.

I put this one first because for a long time, I had a hard time asking anyone, including my husband, for help. Yes, I realize we were not created to go through life without relationships and the support of others, but my pride had been a major issue. That, and I always felt like if I don't do it, it won't get done [right]! Better yet, if I had to ask you, then maybe you didn't want to help me in the first place. Trust me when I say that kind of thinking can be a bit damaging, so ask for help when you need it!

My husband has always been very supportive of my career goals as well as my dream of someday operating as a full-time artist, so once we had our son it was kind of easy getting him on board with taking over some of the parenting duties. Ladies, trust your husband as the father of your child(ren) and LET HIM TAKE OVER (sometimes!) I know far too many mamas who assume so much responsibility, naturally, but also burn themselves out because they won't delegate or ask their partners for help. I learned early on that I had a willing partner, so I do not take it for granted.

Once our son turned one, we began operating on a schedule where two days out of the week my husband would pick him up from daycare to allow me to slow down from rushing to leave work or to devote myself to some after school time with my students, come home to work on art, go to the gym, or simply woo-sah while they played at the park or visited Granny. This can even work on the weekends! Pick a day, and get you some hours of solitude in! Not married? Get a family member or close friend on board, but by all means don't try to do this thing called life alone.

"Two people are better than one, for they can help each other succeed."- Ecclesiastes 4:9 NLT

I identify my priorities, and make sure I remind myself often that they ARE my PRIORITIES.

I had to take some time to really think about the things I wished to prioritize in my life, be it my relationship with God, family responsibilities, personal ambitions, career goals, or overall health. Once those were established, I was able to create daily routines that align with these priorities. There are many things tempting me to drop everything and run to it, but everything doesn't deserve my immediate attention. Period. There are people who attempt to make their priorities my priorities, chores that stare me in the face as my son begs "Mommy, come plaaay!", and even self-made tasks that I feel NEED to happen like tuh-DAY! I stopped all of that! You've heard me say it before: God, Family, Creativity are my top three priorities (I group close friends in with family, but you get the gist). These are the things that help me grow and feed into my purpose. Everything else has to come second and therefore be worked in. Really it's all about what I feel God has called me to do, and what I consider my ministries to be, and well, marriage/family are my first ones. As for my art business, that is what I intend to build my legacy and generational wealth on, which all goes back to one thing: FAMILY.

"Make time for the people and things that matter most."

I say "No" to anything that doesn't align with my priorities and purpose.

This one used to be tough for me as it requires a lot of tact, skill, and effort. Once I was able to determine what actually matters in the grand scheme of things and what doesn't, this became a lot easier to do. If it interfered with my time alone/time with God, time with my family, from feeding my creative desires/building my art business, or from maintaining a mentally and physically healthy lifestyle, I learned that "No" was an option, and an acceptable response. I also learned not to mind if people didn't understand. I've experienced extreme burnout from saying "Yes" to virtually any opportunity that came my way, but I soon realized that wasn't getting me anywhere except in the doctor's office. You can't pour from an empty cup! And the ultimate goal should be to spend more time doing quality things with quality people, instead of simply doing more things and suffering the results.

I do little chunks at a time.

The whole idea of doing small chunks of a